What if Your Judgment Is Bad?
There is a well-studied concept called the Fundamental Attribution Error*. This concept says that people tend to blame the shortcomings of others on some character flaw. When it comes to others, we tend to believe their behavior is a product of their laziness, dishonesty, or intrinsic flaw. When we assess our own lack of performance, it is not because of a character flaw but because of overwhelming external circumstances. It isn’t our fault; anyone else would have done the same thing given the circumstances.
Judging others is rarely helpful. People do what they do for a good reason, but remember, it is for their reasons, not yours. We, as humans, are in no position to judge or condemn others. We still address the behavior but do it without judgment.
Here are some signs you have crossed the line into unhealthy judgment:
- You are emotionally engaged negatively—think anger, disgust, or extreme frustration
- You are using absolutes, like “always” and “never,” when describing the other person
- You are making conclusions about another person’s character; they are lazy, dishonest, or a thief
- Mutual Respect—Suspend all judgment about motives.
- Shared Purpose—What do we want to accomplish together that we can’t do alone?
- Meaningful Dialogue—Have a two-way conversation with open sharing of insights and perspectives
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